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I cannot imagine how my life would be without the impressive coversation with Mr Friesen. At least, I don't think I would be able to have such a tolerant and moderate attitude towards the society I’m living in. I used to have so many grievances with Chinese society, which were built up gradually each time my infant sense of fairness and justice was being challenged by the many bewildering phenomena I encountered. Why does my father have to spend most of his spare time socializing with his friends in the government, rather than with me and my mom? Why can’t poor people afford the medicine? Why do food makers dare to put whatever toxins they want into their products, being totally irresponsible to, and disrepectful of life? The unanswered questions made me sometimes cynical to others. I kept silent until Mr Friesen’s socials class broke the ice and stimulated my eagerness to voice my questions. After the first class, I asked him, “The more I study, the more,seemingly, I don’t know and need to figure out—why I should move on. ” he replied, “An ingrorant man puts his hand into a fire once and a fool continues to do so ;a wise man learns not to from others.” Then I began to talk to him more frequently. At the same time, I was impressed and even astonished by his conceptions such as “the government is no more than a thing”, “the government reflects people”and “we should judge others as human beings not in terms of nationalites”, which all enlightened my mind and reversed my views. The first arranged coversation I had with Mr Friesen was embrassing but valuable. I had many feelings that depressed me for so long and that I longed to express, but my English bound and gagged me with annoyance and bitterness. I even felt like crying. At last, I said to Mr Friesen, “I am not able to say many things clearly in English.I can do it in Chinese, but ironically, no one can understand.” He smiled: “I understsand you.” I found I had grown continously conversation after conversation. I chose to be critical rather than radical and to be calm rather than impulsive. I started to think how the issues were related. I started to go to English websites to research other sides of an issue. Most importantly, I started to understand China based on rationality.